9 Valentine’s Ideas for Every Military Couple

It was our first Valentine’s Day as a married couple. I couldn’t wait to come home for what was surely going to be candles and rose petals everywhere. I was so excited to unwrap whatever carefully thought out present my husband had gotten me, and post six million pictures to Facebook. I pull into our driveway and find 5 different cars at our house. I walk in to find 10 single marines watching T.V. and a destroyed house.

If you’re anything like me, Valentine’s Day has never been anything close to what Nicholas Sparks tells me it should be. That is why I compiled these date night ideas for couples in the military like my husband and me. Ultimately a successful date night has to blend two things; flexibility and creativity. Check out some ideas I had and make them your own for your special day.

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Date Night-in

            There are so many ways to make Valentine’s Day special without leaving the comfort of your home. Whether you’re trying to save money, or can’t find a babysitter you can still celebrate.

  1. Dine in the Dark

With as many distractions as we face daily, shutting everything down is so refreshing. A famous restaurant in San Francisco, Opaque, utilizes dark atmosphere to bring customers together. Bring the dark experience home, and see if you get the same effect. (Note: you should probably cook with the lights on)

  1. Candlelit Lunch: For Parents

Enjoy a surprise lunch date while the kids are at school or napping. Getting time away can be hard for busy parents, so why not utilize the down time? This can be a welcome change from the traditional dinner and a movie.

  1. Minute to Win It: Date Night with the Kids

Can’t get away for lunch? Have a fun filled game night with your kids. Minute to win it games are the best because they use household items and are so fun!
Date Night Out

Want to go out, but don’t know where to start? These fun dates are certain to take you out of your comfort zone, and make it a night to remember.

  1. Dancing Date

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wished I was on Dancing with the Stars. My husband and I both love being active so this tends to be a go-to for us. Channel your inner Channing and Jenna Tatum and go dancing! You can take ballroom lessons, find a local swing club to join, or bring it home with a “Just Dance” Wii game.

  1. Trampoline Fun Date

Embrace your inner child and visit a trampoline park. Everyone loves bouncing around and flipping into foam no matter what your age. (okay maybe not 80) Share some laughs and burn some calories with this fun date.

  1. Exploring Date

Explore your duty station through Geocaching. Find hidden treasures throughout your town and enjoy the outdoors.


Long Distance Date

We all know being together for Valentine’s Day is a luxury not many of us get. If you spouse is deployed like mine, here are some ideas to share the time.

  1. Skype Dinner and Movie

Skype and eat is a great way to enjoy dinner together while apart. Order the same food and spend time talking about your day like you would a normal dinner. You can even watch the same movie after to spend more time together.

  1. App Love

Utilize apps intended for long distance relationships. Our personal favorite is “Couple.” You can draw silly pictures, chat, and our favorite “thumb kiss.” You can see where your partner’s thumb is on his/her phone, and when your thumbs line up both phones vibrate as if your thumb’s kissed!! Is that not the greatest, cheesiest thing you have ever heard?

  1. Virtual Game Night

Lastly, You can play games online together. Miniclip.com and Addictinggames.com both have fun multiplayer games that you can play separately. This is our favorite thing to do, because (Let’s face it) you run out of things to talk about over Facetime. This takes the pressure off conversation and back on relaxing fun.


No matter what you do, the important thing is that you have fun doing it. Valentine’s Day is supposed to be appreciating your spouse. So often we get caught up in the glitz of it all that we forget why we do it. Many times we show love how we want to receive it, rather than how the other person wants to receive it. Don’t buy him flowers and chocolates because you want flowers and chocolates. Think about what would make him feel loved and special and have fun doing it.